Have you ever been condemned by your co-workers for doing something wrong? Did you think that your co-worker was being an asshole at the time? Did you correct what you were doing wrong or did you continue to do the same thing over and over in spite of that asshole?
The vast majority of people won't correct their actions when corrected but rather will resent the condemner for a long period of time. Sometime, when people who have rudely corrected me die, I feel relieved. As terrible as that may sound, it's true. People won't correct themselves for anything no matter how wrong it may be.
Drug dealers won't condemn themselves for selling drugs but rather rationalize it in their mind. If you ask most people who have been arrested if they deserved it, the vast majority will say that they were a victim. If criminals can't criticize their own actions, how can you expect anyone to?
You mustn't ever hurt someone's precious sense of pride otherwise you risk them hating you for eternity. When you criticize someone, you put them on the defensive. When their on the defensive, they will strive to justify their actions no matter how wrong it may be.
Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain and most fools do.
People learn faster by being rewarded, similar to a dog. Instead of criticizing, why not reward people when they do good? As they get rewarded more often, they'll keep doing good because they like being rewarded. Wrongdoers blame everyone but themselves and so do you. We all do.
Confucius had a pretty good saying, "Don't complain about the snow on your reign ours roof when your own doorstep is unclean."
Humans are not logical. They are ruled by emotions. Remember that.
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